stress + suitable meditative practices
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The other day I posted on a Facebook group that I feel overwhelmed and somewhat stressed because I feel I’m not doing what everyone else is. You know, that active friend who has sprinted, juiced, body brushed and meditated all before 7am? Well, that ain’t me. I look at them and feel like I should have that ‘seize the day before 7′ attitude but I don’t. So why the hell am I stressed and what am I gonna do about it? I found it funny though when someone recommended that I read this blog post written by Mia Freedman basically about the same thing. It had me in hysterics. This is so me right now!!!
I’ve had 4 days off this weekend and got in a bit of a slump thinking that I have done nothing. I look on Facebook to see friends travelling, people at the beach, how many kilometres they’ve ran and everything else. I immediately get stressed I haven’t done the same. It’s almost like the day becomes a complete write-off if you haven’t done 15 things before 7am. The thing is, I feel guilty because I feel it’s what I should be doing. Though not what I want to be doing.
To be honest, I hate mornings. I usually tackle them on my days off by waking up at 10 and not seizing the day. Or meditating. More just waking, checking Facebook, doing my eyebrows and taking my supplements, trying not to step on the cat and remembering how loud the Vitamix is before I turn it on. I find meditating like pulling teeth. I really can’t stand it. I feel, although I am doing it, my head is somewhere else, like at work thinking of all the tasks I have to do. I know everyone says that’s the point of meditating, to practice drowning that out but frankly I leave feeling more stressed than I started with.
So I woke up late and went about my weekend basically not giving a shit about how many 10′s of kilometres everyone ran and I just did what I wanted. I painted a picture, tiled the kitchen at work and created two delicious dishes. And you know, it felt good. I find for me, a typical Virgo, perfectionist, highly strung individual, that I need tedious work to chill me out. Work so tedious that I get completely into the zone of focus. Possibly so focussed that it might give me wrinkles later in life from my concentrating frowny face and it’s never a short process, I usually stick with these tasks for a good 2-3 hours.
I figure I have so many of you reading my blog there are bound to be a handful of you that are the same as me. And you know I think it’s a good way to be. Sitting down, relaxing and focusing on your breath might work for you or even chilling out to music. But if ripping tiles off a wall, getting covered in wall cement and having your face 2 inches from the wall brings your head to a focussed happy place, that’s okay too!
I would love to hear your thoughts on this? If some days you log onto Facebook and give a mental swear to all those seize-the-dayers or how on earth you relax! I would love to know
But for now, here are my weekend meditative practices – Creating organic food, tiling, painting.




Hahaha couldn’t agree more! I try to do fifteen things before then sun is up but I HATE it. It is such a struggle. It is difficult to find that work/life balance, if I don’t get up at dawn I feel like my whole day is given up to work. I definitely agree that a gentler approach is best where possible. I intend on slowing things down much to what you described. Baking, reading and writing are my ‘calmers’.
Your artwork is absolutely beautiful by the way. So modelling, writing, being a business entrepreneur and inspiring chef wasn’t enough for your bag of talents? You definitely need to look at yourself from the outside, the way that others view you, and stop being so hard on yourself. Your blog is hugely inspiring.
I can relate though, I’m a nutcase perfectionist, so I’m always looking at what more I could have done rather than embracing what I HAVE done and achieved. Not surprising then that us A type personalities have so many digestive and mental health issues! We need to start being our own best friends. That’s a constant uphill battle though, don’t you think? Anyway, great post Peta, I really enjoy reading your stuff, we are so alike, reflecting on your life let’s me reflect on my own life and realise that I need to stop being so tough on myself too!
I’ve started ‘attempting’ to wake up earlier for that very soon that as soon as 7.45 rolls around I am in Pilates mode full force!!! Thanks and I know I am too hard on myself. Sometimes it’s good, most of the time it’s not
so maybe yes, I should take my own advice! Ha ha. xx
I can’t agree more. Everyday I see people who wake up at 4 am to run 10 miles. That’s never going to be me. I’m more than happy to get my workout in at 4 or 5 pm. You seem to have a vast array of talents. You seize the day in your own way:)
Me too! I love afternoon exercise, especially before dinner!!! Thank you
I think we all have many things we are great at! We just need to find them
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Hi sweetheart. We don’t know each other and maybe never will meet but from reading your posts regularly we are like two peas in a pod. As far as today’s blog goes I completely relate, and while I was ‘relaxing’ today rearranging my apartment, food shopping, cleaning out my wardrobe and spring cleaning my bathroom I found myself thinking of you every time my head started to give me grief about not exercising for the last 3 days. (i am a full time group exercise instructor so this was a big deal for me). I made a choice last year to stop comparing myself to the face bookers and early birds who can get on their high horse about ridiculously early workouts as if they are more dedicated and sacrificial because of the time of the workout.. WTF? It doesn’t make a difference if its at 4am, 10am or 4pm. A workout is a workout.. and there is sleep to be had, work to be done and meals to eat, homes to be kept.. I like your attitude to wellness. It inspires me to stay true to who I am, and I keep making progress as you do. you’re beautiful, and I value who you are and how you contribute who you are and how you live to a whole bunch of strangers who feel like we are your friends. xxx
Aw thank you! What a sweet comment! I think sometimes for people who work in the fitness industry like us, exercise is the last thing on our minds! I teach about 32-35 classes in 4 days and some weeks I just don’t want to do anything. I figure your body is the best person to look to for advice and if it’s tired it needs rest! Doing mental ‘exercise’ I think is just as important! For me I like cleaning and rearranging things, I feel it helps to keep me sane! I think the problem is it’s branded into us that to be healthy we MUST exercise in the morning and get up early, so as soon as we don’t we feel like we have failed. Exercise at any point in the day is fine! And do it when you feel you want to not when you feel you ‘should’. Thanks so much and thanks for reading my blog
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